Kinder, more effective alternatives to punishment
We can guide and set boundaries for our children without resorting to threats and punishment.
People who don't understand what Positive Parenting or Child-Centred Parenting are often talk about spoiling children, or letting children "get away" with things, as though parenting is an us vs. them competition.
Assuming that children's concerning behaviour comes from stress and lacking skills, rather than assuming it is intentional, does not mean they "get away" with anything.
Instead of punishing children --which increases their stress & doesn’t teach any skills--work with them to help uncover the underlying cause of the behaviour, help them come up with some solutions, & teach them skills they may be lacking.
Life isn't a game to be lost or won. Parenting isn't about keeping our children "in line" through fear and intimidation, it's about guiding, teaching, and LOVING our children.
Love doesn't have to be "tough" to be thoughtful and meaningful.
"When you have a neurodiverse child, those 'shoulds' tend to go right out the window."
"As adults, we view children’s behaviour through an adult lens, making assumptions based on adult life experiences and adult-sized cynicism."
"'Do as I say and not as I do' is the maxim of the hypocrite. Children will always do as we DO. They will never do as we say, unless we first show them how."
Instead of slapping your child’s hand, gently take them by the hand and show them the way.